This was meant to be a post on girl code.
Yesterday, after hitting the publish button on this post, I had plans of taking on girl code next. Girl code means a set of codes girls must abide by in dealing with fellow girls or risk being kicked out of the community. It sounds grave I know but that’s only because it is a serious issue. I had a list (I promise to post it after this) that I wanted to add to, so naturally, I sought the help of ladies at my workplace. Weirdly, they didn’t know exactly what I was referring to so I had to explain by citing an example. ”Exes of friends are off limits”
That’s how it started.
I believe whole heartedly that your friends’ ex cannot be the person you end up dating or ”gasps” marry. Like how? In this world of over 7 billion people how is it possible that your happiness lies in your friends’ ex??? How? I already said a while back that I don’t believe in soulmates so it’s a perplexing situation. Up until yesterday, I thought everyone knew this.
One lady was insistent on the argument that exes are fair game as long as your friend has moved on from him. Quick question though, do we really ever fully move on from a relationship? I know about being totally done with someone and holding out no hope for future relations but does not mean I won’t mind my ex dating my friend? Lawd, just the thought of it sef is getting me all riled up. She said I was being selfish and that I should also take the happiness of the other parties into consideration, lol, again How?? I don’t even care about the happiness of exes. It’s not something I ever ponder on. You can read here to know more about my feelings towards exes.
Imagine having a best friend that was there when you met baby boy, she helped you pick out date outfits from date one till when you got comfortable enough to appear in your natural form before him. She was there through all the fights and apology gifts, helping you compose text messages and what not. And then the relationship ends because, maybe he cheated or you cheated or his family didn’t like you or you realized you’re not really compatible and months later you find out your friend and ex-babyboy are a couple. Please tell me you won’t be mad .
There’s no rationalizing this.
”But it’s been so long” . Yet, in all that time you couldn’t get yourself another person’s ex. why mine?
”But you already have a new man” How’s that your business?
”But I really like him” don’t worry, its a phase that will pass.
”But… just shut up.
Exes are off limits for me. A friends’ ex sha o. Any other ex is ”gettable”
How about you. Would you date a friends’ ex? Would you mind if a friend dated your ex? Let’s talk.